The Fresh Prince of Bel Air rapped it best “Parents just don’t understand.!” We have things we want to do, places we want to go, we want things to run our way without the restrictions of what our parents think, say, do or feel. Take off the strongholds!!! Why don’t parents understand?? Hmm. Sometimes parents don’t understand because they weren’t taught that there are many ways to resolve issues besides the ways that they have become accustomed to. Sometimes they don’t understand because their fears are greater than that which they are willing to risk and sometimes lo and behold they don’t understand because there are mental ailments that don’t allow them to make appropriate decisions. In all of these cases, the children (younger or adult) of these parents, can feel: life is a struggle, misunderstood, unseen, unheard, frustrated, emotionally unstable and probably a wide range of other emotions. Life is not the easiest thing to maneuver. One has to be bound in faith and surrounded by others that will help them get through the times when the “parents” are creating challenges. Hopefully someone, somewhere will remind that child that there is one parent that will always understand. We call him Jesus-google Him:). He’s there all day and night, just waiting for us to hand over our burdens and crosses when they get to heavy. When we don’t understand.. when our parents don’t understand, we have to call on our Father who understands it all.
Just a lil something to think about and remember..I love you but God loves you more.
When your children are growing, they fight to sit on mommy’s lap. When your pets can find you sitting still for longer than 2 seconds, they want to jump around on mommy’s lap. When you are in a relationship, your significant other wants time to lay their head on your lap. Everyone wants a place on mommy’s lap. The funny thing is..even though time passes and everyone gets older, they still want reassurance that mommy’s lap, time and love is still available. Each one deserves and expects their individual attention. Do you see ME? Do you love ME? Do you hear ME? Everyone wants to know that they are important to mommy and as mommy’s we do our absolute best. We sweat, we fret, we worry, we rub, we cry, we pray and yes,at the end of the day, we make sure everyone has a place on our laps.
Be well and remember..I love you but God loves you more.
So! Somewhere along the line, my children grew into adults. Who knew!!!! They are full grown, intelligent, aware, conscientious, beautiful young beings that are capable of managing their own lives. Quite an epiphany. Now, I would like to say that I am fully on board with this new discovery of mine but the truth is…..I’m stuuggliiing:) But!! I am embracing the fact that my children are no longer under my management. Pray for me! I am so used to telling them what to do and how to do it that I have not allowed them the freedom to manage their own lives.. to get used to being that final authority and taking ownership over life decisions. The conversation will no longer be one sided. Now I will be there with nets and bells and whistles and blow horns just in case you know.. but as a routine…” apparently those are frowned upon in this establishment” tee hee hee (thanks E*TRADE commercial). For those who have adult children, you know what I’m going through and for those who don’t…one day you will. I know I am not alone in this new challenge. I know there will be struggles, setbacks, questions and concerns as we move forward but I will remain strong (and sane in Jesus name! LOL) as my children move…under new management, their own.
Shoulda Woulda Coulda is a syndrome. The type of syndrome that doesn’t produce anything good and encourages you to constantly look back over life with bitterness, anger and regret. Making you wonder what may have happened if you’d done things a different way. Well, I have bad news and good news. The bad news is …reliving those moments over and over in your head and out loud, won’t change a thing. The good news is… God grants you new days to do new things! Sometimes, even though you know the answer or know what to do, you may need another person to give you that final push in the right direction. PUSH! Which is also an acronym for PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS. Here is your PUSH! You no longer have to look back. Some of the things you shoulda woulda coulda done in your past, may have produced great results but the better news is that those things that you should, would and could do in your present will produce even greater results! I am wishing well in your new journey to greatness and remember…
I love you but God loves you more.
Last night, I was listening to a podcast available on iTunes called Scandal Revealed. Kerry Washington, who star’s in Scandal (Thursday nights, ch. 7, at 10 :), was gushing about how happy she is to work with such a wonderful cast. She remarked that they get along well, push each other and especially how they have each others back. Then she said .. “This must be what it feels like to be on a championship team.” I began to think about my life and I began to nod my head…yes, I know that feeling. My husband, my children, my job and the friends that I keep close, compose my championship team! My team has my back and I have theirs. They make me feel seen, heard and that my very existence matters. Yes..I nod again. My team is important to me. When I have a problem or a decision I want to get an opinion on or want to express exuberance over my latest (and greatest) new idea, I consult my team. If I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone to cry with or someone to bite their nails with me, I turn to my team. I can trust my team. They have my back and I have theirs. I have a championship team and I am wishing the same for you.
Be well and remember..I love you but God loves you more ; )